30 Ways to Serve Your Spouse Today

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30 Ways to Serve Your Spouse

Serving your spouse should be one of your top priorities in your marriage. God has entrusted you to be the person to show your spouse love on a daily basis. Serving your spouse doesn’t mean you are a slave or a doormat. Jesus talks about serving each other as a way to show love each other and follow his commands. 

Mark 10:43-45 English Standard Version

43 But it shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant,[d] 44 and whoever would be first among you must be slave[e] of all. 45 For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Adam and I read the Book the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman a few years ago and it really changed how we serve each other. Each person has a unique way that they receive and respond to love.

The 5 love languages are:

Words of affirmation (telling them how awesome they are)

Acts of service (doing things for them)

Receiving gifts

Quality time

and Physical touch.

Once you discover your spouse’s unique love language, you are able to serve them and show them love in a way they will respond.

Here are some ways you can serve your spouse this week:

1) Fix their lunch or bring them lunch to work

2) Clean up after them without mentioning it (picking up dirty socks and putting them in the hamper, etc.)

3) Pick up their favorite snack when you are at the grocery store

4) Let them pick the movie to watch on Saturday night

5) Do a chore they hate doing and do it for them (taking out the garbage)

6) Put gas in their car

7) Wash their car

8) Take the kids so your spouse can have some quiet time

9) Cook them their favorite dinner

10) Put away their clean clothes for them

11) If they cook, clean up the kitchen

12) Scrape off the ice off their windshield (in winter)

13) Make the bed for them

14) Make coffee for them in the morning

15) Clean out their car

16) Write them a note about why you love them

17) Bring them breakfast in bed 

18) Take care of helping the kids pick up toys

19) Check in on your way home to see if they need anything

20) Take care of the shopping list

21) Clean the toilets

22) Bake them a special treat for after the kids go to bed

23) Iron their clothes for them

24) Choose not to nag about something that hasn’t been finished

25) Go to their favorite restaurant (or get take out)

26) Buy them a magazine on their favorite topic (or an e-book)

27) Warm up a towel for them while they are taking a shower or bath

28) Let them be “right” in a disagreement

29) Surprise them with a date night without kids

30) If your spouse likes a clean house, clean out your stuff and organize 


Check out my post on How to Save Money on Valentine’s Day

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How do you serve your spouse? What is your love language?


This post was linked up to Serving Joyfully  and Fellowship Fridays and Marriage, Motherhood and Missions and Thriving Thursdays 

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  1. These are some great tips of ways to shower a spouse with love. Gary Chapman is a great author. I’m currently giving away his latest book on my blog. I do a lot of these for my husband and what I don’t do, he manages to do for me. The nagging bit is one I struggle with all the time!

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